Do you feel everything your fault? That should should have acted differently - even when you know you couldn't have? Are you wrapped in a quilt of guilt? It's natural - so many of us do. But what is this stealer of peace and joy and why do we feel it? Guilt is a feeling that...
“When we get too caught up in the busyness of the world, we lose connection with one another-and ourselves.” Jack Kornfield I am so familiar with busyness! Are you? You’ll often find me multitasking like a whirring dervish with multiple hands and a false belief that there are more than 24 hours in the day. Busyness...
Today, I wanted to revisit people pleasing and our children for a bit of a ramble, as well as covering some tips on how we can stop them from taking up the ‘pleasing’ mantle and continuing the cycle. Before I begin, I wanted to reiterate that people pleasing comes from a place of trauma. Likely not...
People pleasing is being kind to everyone, except yourself - Holly Soulie Sometimes we really need to do - not only tasks and running around but doing less - less worrying, overthinking, and busyness, and today we come to people pleasing. Hands up if that’s you! There is so much to say about people pleasing - I...
Overthinking is the act of thinking too much and too deeply about things. We can all do it, but if it stops you from being calm and present or doing things like engaging with people or sleeping, it’s time to kick it into touch. I used to overthink a lot. I remember in my 20s being...
Hands up if you're a worrier? And has it intensified as your child's mental health has declined? You'e not alone! Most of us find ourselves churning over worries and this post is there to help you try and take some charge of the worries you have. So what is worry? According to wikipedia, worry “refers to the...
It’s 2015. My daughter, 14 at the time, has stopped going to school and is hurtling towards crisis point, dragging all sense of normality with her and us into the deepest, bleakest hole we could ever imagine. She struggles to leave the house She can’t face her class She’s not able to sleep and spends hours awake in...
You and your family are off on holiday. You’re tired and looking forward to some peace and quiet, time to kick back and relax, and find some time to be you again. Your teenager is looking forward to some space and independence, to explore, meet new people, and try new things. You’ve waited a long time for this. You...
If you’re waking to another day where you feel like your stomach can’t drop any further, or you’re just waiting for another pile of poo to be delivered to your door in the form of unhelpful friends, family or professionals, or you just wonder how your head isn’t bursting with all the pressure that builds...
As the parent of a child with mental health problems, perhaps the most difficult thing to understand is the journey you are now on. Watching your child’s mental health decline and your coping strategies fail and not knowing what’s to come creates a sense of hopelessness that is difficult to manage. We have created the PMH Curve...
